First
Date Tips
By Jennifer Klein
Dating can be tough and first dates can be painful. So what
are you to do? Here is a list of dating tips to start the year
out right!
Meet your date out and drive yourself. If
you want to bail out early, you won't be trapped. Also, when
you have your own car. If things work out, you won't have
any worries about inviting your date in or not. This helps
protect you from your own impulses, because what's worse then
"will he respect me in the morning?" is "How
much will I hate myself when I wake up?". Also when you
have your own car, no need to worry about safety, your date
does not know where you live. This protects you from a date
turned bad turning in to a stalking nightmare.
Keep the date simple. You're nervous enough
without making a big show, plus you don't want to lock yourself
in to an evening you won't enjoy.
Men, end the date first. You will make yourself
stand out.
Women, don't wear anything low cut or short.
It sounds like an old cliché but your first date knows
very little about the woman you are. He will take you at face
value and you don't want to give the wrong impression.
A friend of mine went out for dinner on a blind date. She
is a very conservative women, who really likes to take her
time in relationships. All of us who know her know this about
her. Her date didn't. She went out on the date wearing a sexy
low cut cocktail dress. They went to dinner, had a wonderful
evening, and when he walked her to her door, he pounced on
her! She was of course surprised and upset, but her date didn't
know her, he just took her at face value.
Wear clothing that you are comfortable and confident
in. First dates are uncomfortable enough without
a tight belt biting you around the waist.
Men, be specific about where you are going.
This will make the date more comfortable, and will prevent
her from wearing a cocktail dress when you are taking her
bowling.
Ask about your date. Each of us knows we
are the most interesting subject :) But the most interesting
conversationalists are people who ask about others. Great
light topics are work, hobbies, sports, kids (if they have
any).
Easy on the perfume. You want to knock his
socks off, but you don't want to knock him out!
Don't forget to use mouthwash before you go out.
Don't order sloppy food. If you are not
paying for what you order, try to stay in the middle of the
menu.
Keep the conversation light! Don't talk
or ask about old boyfriends, girlfriends, or ex-spouse. This
is a first date, not a therapy session.
Find out about your dates eating habits
before you plan the evening. Make sure you choose a place
where they will be able to find something to eat.
Be attentive! There is nothing worse then
a date peering over your shoulder making you feel as if they
are looking for something better.
If you are not paying be considerate of what you
order. Try to stay in the middle of the menu.
And last, but not least, have fun and be yourself!
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